What My Mama Taught Me About Character, As Told By TK + Cipriana Quann
Mamas pass down all sorts of nuggets of wisdom -- it’s what they do. And the best kind of nuggets are those that have been passed down to them from the generations of fearless mamas in your ancestral lineage. In WHAT MY MAMA TAUGHT ME, we’re sharing the life, waist, skin, and time-saving wisdoms that our mamas (literally and figuratively) have passed down to us. Love you, mom.
When we chatted with TK and Cipriana Quann, their love for their mama was palpable. She came up easily within the first two minutes, and was weaved in every other moment throughout. From fashion, to beauty and food and character building, mama's leave a strong imprint on everything from our wardrobe to our heart
Here's how TK and Cipriana's mama shaped their character:
TK: She is the most positive woman in the entire universe. She is in Nevada now, so we don't get to see her as much as we'd like to, which is every day. We say she's our third triplet...
C: I always say: what didn't we learn from her? Even now, and we're always positive, but sometimes we're not, and she has taught us that there's no excuse not to be kind to someone. You know, sometimes you meet some individuals and they have a bad day, and then they take it out on the people around them. Then some people apologize, and some people don't. But TK and I always had a mother that was like, 'There's no excuse for you to treat anyone unkind, I don't care if it's the janitor that's picking up trash off the street or the President of the United States.' She taught us to treat everyone the same. You present the best of yourself to everyone. I am just so amazed at how positive she is...
TK: Our mom is incredible. You know how you see some women and they're just so positive and you're like, 'Is that even real?' But yes, our mother is one of those people. It's amazing and it's so authentic. Even if I'm having a bad day, I don't take it out on someone. I'm not rude as well, but our mother is on another level. It's almost to the point where you can't tell if something is wrong with her. But we know some key indicators by certain words. I think the biggest lesson we've learned from her is that if people have something negative to say about you, those are the people that you don't need in your life and it speaks volumes about the person who's being negative towards you.
These are also the people that you should not care about. Their opinions shouldn't be valid to you and shouldn't affect the way the way that you think about yourself. And I have to say, that lesson was really important growing up and now as a young adult, I feel it so much because not everyone loves our hair. But I love my hair. I love the person that I am, and I'm not saying that it's always positive, but sometimes, people have venomous things to say. Growing up, I was never bothered by that because I just thought, 'I don't know who this person is, and they're choosing to be negative. I don't know what's going on in their life, and that is someone I shouldn't expend my energy caring for.' If I am having a great day, why should I let someone I don't know who's having a negative day affect my day? I think that's the biggest lesson I've learned from my mother.
C: Just to piggy back off of that, our mom always told us, 'Never be angry, and never change yourself towards someone else because of their attitude.' She also said, 'A lot of times, they're reflecting their own insecurities onto you.'
TK: Someone angry, or negative wants the same reaction from you.
C: She'll always be like, 'Don't reflect back...don't get angry, just realize that they're in a very lost space of unhappiness and there's things that are going on in their life that they're unfortunately taking out on you.' She taught us to be the bigger person and just walk away.
TK: We really try to do that. Sometimes it's hard, as a human, but I try not to let it get to the point where I'm stepping out of the boundaries of what I believe in, and how I wish to carry myself.
C: Whenever someone is rude to me, my mom is like, 'Do you know how much it sucks to go through life living that way -- being so rude?' I think about that all the time.
TK: For years I worked a job that I despised -- I didn't despise the job itself, but I just had to deal with a lot of personalities. I was in school, and I was a cocktail server. It was difficult because of the clientele's personality. I actually enjoyed the job itself because it's just a fun job to make money in, and I incorporated all of these lessons from our mom in when I worked -- the more rude someone became, the more nice I became. It was interesting when I started doing that, because you'd see people get really irritated. I'm not saying I can do it all of the time...but I try.
C: It definitely was a journey to get to this point today. We still have our moments, but these things are in our conscious every time.