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How To Release Resistance to Change... In Less Than 60 Seconds

Many of us are trying to make radical changes to feel healthier and happier. We do elimination diets, cleanses, start an exercise plan, or learn to meditate. We know these things supposed to change our lives, as everyone praises. So then why the hell is it so hard to stick to the plan? Why do we fall off the wagon so easily or resist like it's the devil itself?

I've noticed a lot of us are trying to give up sugar, for example. Monday comes and we have infinite willpower! We are going to give up sugar for-freaking-ever. People will envy us. People will want to be us. The future looks bright. Alas, five o'clock rolls around and you are deep in debate with the angel and devil on your shoulder. You start rationalizing why that Kind bar is okay. It has honey in it, which is not really sugar (right?) and you're pretty sure that non-gmo glucose is some kind of antioxidant. You forget all your plans about and mad dash to the nearest deli to grab that sweet, gooey delight. Ah, bliss. Well, at least until five minutes later when your sanity lands back down on earth.

I know what you're thinking. No Kind bars? Isn't that extremist, you psycho health nut. The answer is no. Nothing is extremist when done moderately, for designated periods of time, to reset the body and our minds. We set a goal, like no sugar, because part of us resonates with a desire to feel better but then we quickly talk ourselves out of it out of fear of letting go of what we're used to.

Why does this happen? How can we have such clarity one moment and then it all goes out the door by the end of the day? The answer is that we're usually acting from a place of thinking we should do something rather than actually really wanting to do it.

Most of the time, we try to change because we read we should in a magazine or a blog or our friend who's been doing a juice cleanse for 500 days told us to. This creates a major discord as we act out of "I should..." instead of "I want to..." Should is for homework, bills, and deadlines, not for our bodies, our health, and our happiness.

Rewording your goals and thoughts from "I should" to "I want" is incredibly powerful because it gives you complete control over the changes you're trying to make. Try it right now. Pick one thing you think you shoud do, like "I should work out more." Change it: "I WANT to work out more." Now it's your choice, your decision. "I should" is guilt-driven. "I want to" is goal-driven. All it takes is a simple shift in perception to make radical changes with clarity, strength, and infinitely less resistance.


Desiree pais is a certified yoga instructor with a mission to understand the mind-body relationship. After realizing that everything begins with the mind, she took her own health issues, such as auto-immune, chronic fatigue, cystic acne, and hormonal imbalance, into her own hands with Kundalini Yoga, meditation, and other weird, wild, and life-changing healing modalities. She currently studies Chinese Medicine with Daoist Grandmaster Sung Baek and is also pursuing a Master's Degree at Pacific College of Oriental Medicine. Everything she has learned and continues to learn has taught her to believe in magic and that we are much more powerful than we could have ever imagined. Find her on Instagram, @desireespais, for beautiful photos, inspiring quotes, and transformational wisdom. For a free breakthrough session, visit www.desireepais.com

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