How Mamas Are Making it Work
THE MOTHERS OF SAKARA SHARE THEIR STRUGGLES AND SELF-DISCOVERIES IN THIS EXTRAORDINARY TIME
In normal circumstances, mothers are master jugglers: balancing relationships, career, and self-care with the challenges of child-rearing.
We asked some of the mothers in the Sakara office how they’re faring these days, during which the role has veered into all-consuming territory. While many spoke of overwhelm and exhaustion (and several are pregnant and birthing babies in the midst of the pandemic), they also observed pockets of gratitude, discovery, and reaffirmed love. We’re overflowing with reverence for their strength in nurturing those in their circle, and spotting moments to grow. It’s clear that mothers of all kinds—the creators, the empaths, the teachers—are among the heroes in these tender and unprecedented times.
Whoever it is in your life that you’re caring for today and however you’re showing up, we hope these Sakara mama insights serve as a reminder that you’re doing your best—and the kids are all right.
THE SWEET MEMORIES IN THE MAKING
The act of being home more and gaining time once swallowed by commutes or late office hours is allowing for discovery and “delicious moments.”
“My three-year-old son seemingly changes by the hour, and I’m grateful to watch his metamorphosis up close. In some ways, it feels like meeting him properly for the first time.” —Freya Zaheer, President
“Normally we rush to get ready in the morning. Now, we wake up a little slower, and have breakfast in bed with our son, Beckett. Even though it’s hard not to feel pulled in a million directions, we try to make sure he gets all the attention he needs—luckily there’s no shortage of love in the house.” —Tyler Ranson, Culinary Director
“At 36 weeks pregnant, the bright spot is being able to spend a lot of time with my four-year-old before he has to share his mom. Even though my personal revelation is how much I suddenly appreciate the mundane moments of freedom and solitude I used to have in my normal daily routine, I am adjusting to sharing a bed with my son at my parents’ house in Maryland.” —Amanda Baudier, VP of Business Development
It’s clear that mothers in all forms...are among the heroes in these tender and unprecedented times.
THE REAL, THE MESSY, THE HONEST
While there are little things to draw hope from during this time, we are experiencing collective trauma, and tensions can (and do) run high.
“I feel similarly to when I gave birth to my children, running on pure adrenaline, and getting three hours of sleep per day. The human body can withstand a lot! It’s important to recognize that this is only possible for a finite period, and prioritize myself in ways that are possible right now.” —Amy An, VP of Finance
“I’ve definitely given myself permission more than ever to let things fall by the wayside if they are not really important and to be more assertive about what is serving me, and what is an energy detractor.”—Tyler Ranson
“The reality is some days there is extra screen-time, some days we just ‘skip school,’ and many days we've not squeezed in a bath or shower for anyone. Even when our schedules work, there aren’t a lot of moments to just breathe.” —Betsy Mell, VP of Marketing
“I've been coping with stress I didn't even know was there. Slowing down is so important for everyone on a physical, mental, and emotional level. It has helped me realize I lean on my coping mechanisms instead of really working through it and nourishing through ritual.” —Danielle Duboise, founder and co-CEO
“My son turned 10 in quarantine, and I couldn’t believe how fast a decade flew. A wave of emotions came over my body. I can’t seem to remember all that I forgot? [The quarantine period] brought me great pause and quiet. Time moves through me, above me, and below me. I can't fight it, but only need to move with it and with a lot more attention.” —Fran Gaitanaros, VP of Creative
THE TWO MINUTES TO SPARE
We speak often about the power in making health your first priority. Sakara mothers are carving opportunities for self-care that are small but effective.
“To reduce my cravings for sugar and caffeine, both of which have a direct impact on my stress levels, I strive to get my daily dose of greens.” —Tyler Ranson
“My one true non-negotiable is my morning meditation, every day from 6-6:20 a.m. I can only guarantee peace and quiet when my son is asleep, so that is my sacred, solo time.” —Amanda Baudier
“I am sneaking superfoods into everything I cook and I take a long hot shower a few times a week without my little one, turn on relaxing music, and sing and chant.” —Danielle Duboise
“I take a daily walk on the beach with my husband, have a scoop of Metabolism Super Powder in my coffee, start the morning with hugs, and quickly check on the news.” —Fran Gaitanaros
“We are lucky to eat nourishing foods and experience abundance, while trying our best to conserve food by using every part of the vegetable. I also look forward to a glass of chilled wine after my daughters’ bath.” —Amy An
THE DEPTHS OF GRATITUDE
Though the pockets for reflection are sparse, Sakara mamas are rediscovering why they love who they love.
“My husband is such a rock. His strengths in patience and optimism really have left me in awe during this hectic time.” —Miko Mercer, Director of E-commerce
“Human interactions have never been more meaningful and they don't require all the pomp and circumstance of a ‘busy’ life—being bored isn't boring these days.”—Fran Gaitanaros
“I certainly ‘physically trained’ to give birth. When it came down to mentally preparing for giving birth during a pandemic, I completely surprised myself by how strong and focused I was. Thanks, yoga!”—Andrea Benegas, Senior Manager of Creative Operations
“I’ve ‘rediscovered’ some cooking skills, and made tasty recipes with miscellaneous items in the fridge. I also love watching my husband in action more; he's an incredible dad.”—Kim Dunn, Head of Operations
“My daughters are so adaptable. Their smiles and laughter are key reminders to live moment to moment. I am also discovering new sides to their personalities. In my new role of ‘teacher,’ I have a window into witnessing my eldest as a student. It's given me so many proud moments that I would've otherwise missed. I'm infinitely grateful for their teachers; I realize how integral they've been in molding, inspiring, and empowering my daughters.” —Betsy Mell
“We’re learning what it means to take care of our planet, each other, and how we have to change our behavior. There’s also the lesson that all we have is RIGHT NOW. The past and the future are noise. It makes me thankful for Sakara employees, clients, my family, friends, Sakara meals, farmers growing our food, healthcare workers, and anyone else stepping up to help others.” —Danielle Duboise
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